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Friday, August 29, 2025

Unlock Team Success with Clear Communication Norms

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Great team communication doesn’t just happen—it takes some thought and ongoing effort to get it right. Especially now, with so much remote work and people not always working at the same time, confusion usually isn’t because things are too complicated but because things aren’t clear. If no one knows which app to use, who needs to see what, or how fast they need to reply, it’s easy for little misunderstandings to add up and important stuff to get missed.

Let’s face it: without some ground rules, team communication can spiral faster than a group text about what to order for lunch—suddenly everyone’s debating pineapple on pizza and nobody’s answering the real question.

Leaders need to realize that the way we talk to each other shapes team culture just as much as goals or rewards do. Communication rules help everyone know what to focus on, manage their time, and make sure all voices matter—no matter where someone works or their role. Without some basic guidelines, people start making guesses and get frustrated, and that’s not good for morale or for getting things done.

A good way to start is just to get the team together and talk through what’s working and what’s not. What slows people down? Where do messages seem to disappear? Share real stories and brainstorm some options. And don’t just think about the tools—think about how people feel. Do folks worry about what’s really urgent? Does everyone get a chance to speak up, or do a few people take over every chat and meeting? These conversations usually highlight what could be better and help leaders come up with simple rules everyone can get behind.

Set Communication Norms to Avoid Costly Confusion

Without clear norms, communication can become a productivity killer. Messages get ignored, decisions are delayed, and burnout rises. To build a high-performing team, establish shared rules for how, when, and where information flows. Here's how:

  1. Clarify responsiveness expectations. Teams often misread urgency. Some reply instantly to casual emails, while others miss critical messages for days. Set baseline expectations: How quickly should team members respond via Teams chat? Email? What’s considered urgent? Also, define off-hours boundaries. Use features like “send later” or set quiet hours so no one feels pressured to stay online 24/7.
  2. Designate specific tools for specific tasks. Assign channels by purpose, for example: Text for quick questions, email for formal updates, and shared docs for project tracking. Without clear guidance, people default to personal habits, creating noise and missed information.
  3. Make reading effortless. Assume readers are skimming. Lead with key points, cut unnecessary words, and use clear formatting. Shorter messages often get better responses—but in some settings, brevity can seem incomplete. Model concise communication and reset norms so that clarity, not length, becomes the standard.

Ultimately, the most effective teams aren’t those with the fanciest tools or the longest threads—they’re the ones with clear, shared communication habits that make everyone’s work easier and more meaningful. By regularly checking in, refining your rules, and respecting each person's time and voice, you build trust and clarity into your team’s everyday rhythm. Thoughtful communication isn’t just a “nice to have”—it’s the foundation for lasting collaboration, resilience, and success.

Click on the links to read three related posts: 

The Enormous Cost of Unclear Communication (And what to do about it.)  

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The #1 Communication Error 2 min read

9 Tips for Clear, Concise and Compelling Communication  5 min read

To your greater success and well-being,


Peter Mclees, Leadership Coach, Trainer and Performance Consultant
SMART DEVELOPMENT

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Interested in learning how to develop your organization's leadership capability, culture, and employee engagement? We begin with a collaborative discovery process identifying your unique needs and business issues. To request an interview with Peter Mclees please 

contact: Email: petercmclees@gmail.com  or  Mobile: 323-854-1713

Smart Development has an exceptional track record helping service providers, ports, sales teams, restaurants, stores, distribution centers, food production facilities, wealth management services, third-party maintenance providers, real estate services, nonprofits, government agencies and other businesses create a strong culture, leadership bench strength, coaching skills and the teamwork necessary for growth.

Having worked with several companies throughout their growth cycle, we have valuable insights and strategies that would help any late stage startup, small or medium sized company achieve sustained growth and prosperity.

Having worked with several companies throughout their growth cycle, we have valuable insights and strategies that would help any late stage startup, small or medium sized company achieve sustained growth and prosperity.


Sunday, August 24, 2025

Leading with Kindness: Why It Beats Just Being "Nice"

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Let’s be real—trying to be liked by everyone can seem like the easiest path when you’re a leader, but just being that “nice guy” who says yes to everything isn’t the way to make a real impact. True leadership is all about authenticity, guts, and yes, actual kindness. There’s a big gap between leading with kindness and just people-pleasing—and understanding that could totally change how you lead your team or company.

So, What’s the Big Difference?

 Kindness means being honest, caring, and doing the right thing even when it’s tough. Kind leaders aren’t afraid to give real feedback and have tough conversations, but they still show empathy and respect.

Niceness, though, is more about keeping things smooth on the surface—avoiding conflict, sharing only good news, and putting popularity ahead of progress. It’s friendly, but kind of shallow.

While both kindness and niceness can make work feel good for a bit, only kindness builds trust and respect that lasts.

What Goes Wrong with the “Nice Guy” Approach?

 Ã˜  Dodging Tough Talks: Nice leaders often avoid giving honest feedback or dealing with problems head-on because they don’t want to ruffle any feathers. The trouble is, ignoring problems just makes them worse.

Ø  Losing Authenticity: If you’re always agreeable, people might start to see you as insincere or wishy-washy. Folks notice when a leader is more focused on being liked than doing what’s right.

Ø  Letting Mediocrity Slide: Not challenging your team or setting clear standards just leads to “meh” results. Being too nice can mean you’re giving up chances for growth and improvement.

Ø  Burning Out: Trying to please everyone is exhausting! You end up stretched too thin, losing sight of your own goals and values.

Why Kindness Wins

Ø  Trust and Respect: Kind leaders are honest and consistent. They’re brave enough to give tough feedback but do it with care. Teams trust and respect leaders who act with integrity.

Ø  Real Growth: Kindness means helping your team grow, even if it’s uncomfortable. Push people to improve and always have their backs when they need support.

Ø  Openness and New Ideas: When leaders are kind, people feel safe sharing their opinions and trying new things. That’s how creativity and teamwork really take off.

Ø  Motivation and Loyalty: When folks know you genuinely care, they step up and give their best. Kindness builds a feeling of belonging and purpose.

Ø  Better Culture All Around: Teams led by kind people are more collaborative, resilient, and positive. That kind of vibe attracts top talent and helps everyone thrive.

How to Lead with Kindness—For Real

 Ã˜ Be Honest: Don’t sugarcoat feedback. Say what needs to be said, but do it with empathy.

Ø  Set Clear Expectations: Be upfront about what you want and where you’re headed. Hold everyone (including yourself) accountable, but be fair.

Ø  Show Gratitude: Celebrate wins—big or small. A simple thank you goes a long way.

Ø  Practice Empathy: Take time to listen and understand where people are coming from. Support your team as whole people, not just workers.

Ø  Make Tough Calls with Heart: When you have to make hard choices, do it thoughtfully and be upfront about why.

Ø  Take Care of Yourself, Too: Model balance and self-kindness. Encourage your team to look after themselves as well.

Kindness vs. Just Being Popular: A Quick Story

Picture two leaders: Alex, who says yes to everything, avoids conflict, and wants to be everyone’s favorite; and Jamie, who’s friendly and approachable but isn’t afraid to have tough conversations. Over time, Alex’s team gets stuck and afraid to speak up, while Jamie’s team grows, trusts each other, and tackles problems head-on. The difference? Kindness builds a strong foundation for real progress; chasing approval just leads to stagnation.

The Courage to Lead Kindly

Kindness isn’t weakness—it takes guts to make tough calls, tell the truth, and put the team’s needs above just being liked. Real kindness is about strength, empathy, and sticking to your values. That’s what inspires people to follow you—not because they have to, but because they want to.

Bottom Line

Being the “nice guy” might keep things smooth in the short run, but it’s kindness that really changes teams and the people in them. Kindness is honest, brave, and human. It builds trust, drives growth, and makes you a leader people won’t forget.

Honestly, people might remember if you were nice—but they’ll always remember if you were kind.

To your greater courage to be kind,


Peter Mclees, Leadership Coach, Trainer and Performance Consultant
SMART DEVELOPMENT
 

Take the Next Step...
Interested in learning how to develop your organization's leadership capability, culture, and employee engagement? We begin with a collaborative discovery process identifying your unique needs and business issues. To request an interview with Peter Mclees please 

contact: Email: petercmclees@gmail.com  or  Mobile: 323-854-1713

Smart Development has an exceptional track record helping service providers, ports, sales teams, restaurants, stores, distribution centers, food production facilities, wealth management services, third-party maintenance providers, real estate services, nonprofits, government agencies and other businesses create a strong culture, leadership bench strength, coaching skills and the teamwork necessary for growth.

Having worked with several companies throughout their growth cycle, we have valuable insights and strategies that would help any late stage startup, small or medium sized company achieve sustained growth and prosperity.

Having worked with several companies throughout their growth cycle, we have valuable insights and strategies that would help any late stage startup, small or medium sized company achieve sustained growth and prosperity.