Talk to Your Inner Critic

 

 

 

Leader's Digest: Tip of Day

For years, you’ve likely heard that silencing your inner critic is the key to confidence. But suppressing that voice rarely works—and often makes you feel worse when it inevitably resurfaces. The better approach is to train it to work with you, not against you.

Trace its origin story. Your inner critic has roots in early experiences and social conditioning. Reflect on when this voice first appeared and whose expectations it echoes. Giving it a name (think “The Enforcer” or “The Coach”) creates psychological distance and makes it easier to engage with it productively. 

Separate the method from the message. Despite its harsh language, your critic is often trying to protect you. Pause when it speaks and ask: What are you trying to prevent? Thank it for its concern, then consciously reframe the fear into a healthier, more compassionate statement. 

Create distance and start a dialogue. Imagine your critic as a character and have a written conversation with it. Ask what it’s afraid of and what it’s trying to achieve. This dialogue can turn an adversarial voice into a cooperative one. 

Lead with self-compassion. When you hear harsh self-talk, respond as you would to a friend. Name what you’re feeling and remind yourself that one mistake doesn’t define you.

Give the critic a new script. Replace harsh judgments with constructive language. Over time, your trained inner critic can become a wise advisor, helping you grow with courage instead of fear.
 

 To your greater ability to work with your inner critic.

Peter Mclees, Leadership Coach, Trainer and Performance Consultant
SMART DEVELOPMENT

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