"Leadership happens one conversation at a time. So be mindful with each one."
If
you have room in your head for only one nugget of leadership wisdom,
make it this one: the most powerfully motivating condition people
experience at work is making progress at something that is personally meaningful.
If your job involves leading others, the implications are clear: the
most important thing you can do each day is to help your team members
experience progress at meaningful work.
To
do so, you must understand what drives each person, help build
connections between each person’s work and the organization’s mission,
values and strategic objectives, provide timely feedback, and help each
person learn and grow on an ongoing basis. Regular communication around
development — having coaching conversations — is essential. In fact,
according to research, the single most important managerial competency that separates highly effective managers from average ones is coaching.
Strangely,
at most companies, being coach-like isn’t part of what managers are
formally expected to do. Even though research makes it clear that
employees and job candidates alike value learning and career development
above most other aspects of a job, many managers don’t see it as an
important part of their role. Managers think they don’t have the time to
have these conversations, and many lack the skill. Yet 70% of employee
learning and development happens on the job, not through formal training
programs. So if line managers aren’t supportive and actively involved,
employee growth is stunted. So is engagement and retention. When this
happens business results suffer as well.
Can
you teach old-school, results-focused line managers to coach their
employees? Absolutely. And the training boosts performance in both
directions. It’s a powerful experience to create a resonant connection
with another person and help them to achieve something they care about
and to become more of who they want to be. If there’s anything an
effective, resonant coaching conversation produces, it’s positive
energy. Hundreds of leaders have shared with me that helping others
learn and grow is among the most rewarding experiences they’ve had as
managers.
Starting
today, you can be significantly more effective as a manager — and enjoy
your job more — by engaging in regular coaching conversations with your
team members. By the way, these conversation do not need to be long. As
you resolve to support their ongoing learning and development, here are
five key tips to get you started.
- Listen mindfully. Consider what it feels like when you’re trying to convey something important to a person who has many things on his mind. Contrast that familiar experience with the more luxurious and deeply validating one of communicating with someone who is completely focused on you and actively listening to what you have to say with an open mind and an open heart. You can open a coaching conversation with a question such as “How would you like to grow this month?” Your choice of words is less important than your intention to clear your mind, listen with your full attention, and create a high-quality connection that invites your team member to open up and to think creatively.
- Ask more, tell less. As a manager, you have a high level of expertise that you’re used to sharing, often in a directive manner. This is fine when you’re clarifying action steps for a project you’re leading or when people come to you asking for advice. But in a coaching conversation, it’s essential to restrain your impulse to provide the answers. Your path is not your employee’s path. Open-ended questions, not answers, are the tools of coaching. You succeed as a coach by helping your team members articulate their goals and challenges and find their own answers. This is how people clarify their priorities and devise strategies that resonate with what they care about most and that they will be committed to putting into action.
- Create and sustain a developmental partnership. While your role as a coach is not to provide answers, supporting your team members’ developmental goals is essential. Let’s say that your employee mentions she’d like to develop a deeper understanding of how your end users experience the services your organization provides. In order to do so, she suggests accompanying an implementation team on a site visit next week, interviewing end users, and using the interviews to write an article on end user experience for publication on your firm’s intranet-based blog.
- Focus on moving forward positively. Oftentimes in a coaching conversation, the person you’re coaching will get caught up in detailing their frustrations. “I’d love to spend more time building my network, but I have no bandwidth. I’m at full capacity just trying to stay on task with my deliverables. I’d really love to get out to some industry seminars, but I can’t let myself think about it until I can get ahead of these deadlines.” While it can provide temporary relief to vent, it doesn’t generate solutions.
- Build accountability. In addition to making sure you follow through on any commitments you make to employees in coaching conversations, it’s also useful to build accountability for the employee’s side of formulating and implementing developmental plans.
So go ahead and take the interpersonal jump. You will love the thrill of coaching conversations that catalyze your employees’ growth.
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Peter Mclees, Leadership Coach, Trainer and Performance Consultant
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