I
played tennis for most of my life. During that time, I had many
different coaches and I began to notice repeating patterns among them.
Coaches
tend to come up through a certain system. New coaches will often land
their first job as an assistant coach with their alma mater or a team
they played with previously. After a few years, the young coach will
move on to their own head coaching job where they tend to replicate the
same drills, follow similar practice schedules, and even yell at their
players in a similar fashion as the coaches they learned from. People
tend to emulate their mentors.
This phenomenon—our tendency to repeat the behavior we are exposed to—extends to nearly everything we learn in life.
Your
religious or political beliefs are mostly the result of the system you
were raised in. People raised by Protestant families tend to be
Protestant. People raised by Jewish families tend to be Jewish. Although
you may not agree on every issue, your parents political attitudes tend
to shape your political attitudes. The way we approach our day-to-day
work and life is largely a result of the system we were trained in and
the mentors we had along the way. At some point, we all learned to think
from someone else. That’s how knowledge is passed down.
Here’s
the hard question: Who is to say that the way you originally learned
something is the best way? What if you simply learned one way of doing things, not the way of doing things?
Consider
my tennis coaches. Did they actually consider all of the different ways
of coaching a team? Or did they simply mimic the methods they had been
exposed to? The same could be said of nearly any area in life. Who is to
say that the way you originally learned a skill is the best way? Most
people think they are experts in a field, but they are really just
experts in a particular style.
In this way, we become a slave to
our old beliefs without even realizing it. We adopt a philosophy or
strategy based on what we have been exposed to without knowing if it’s
the optimal way to do things. We end up unwittingly perpetuating the
status quo and miss opportunities to innovate and improve.
Shoshin: The Beginner’s Mind
There
is a concept in the Japanese philosophy of Zen known as shoshin, which
means “beginner’s mind.” Shoshin refers to the idea of letting go of
your preconceptions and having an attitude of openness when studying a
subject.
When you are a true beginner, your mind is empty and
open. You’re willing to learn and consider all pieces of information,
like a child discovering something for the first time. As you develop
knowledge and expertise, however, your mind naturally becomes more
closed. You tend to think, “I already know how to do this” and you
become less open to new information.
There is a danger that comes
with expertise. We tend to block the information that disagrees with
what we learned previously and yield to the information that confirms
our current approach. We think we are learning, but in reality we are
steamrolling through information and conversations, waiting until we
hear something that matches up with our current philosophy or previous
experience, and cherry-picking information to justify our current
behaviors and beliefs. Most people don’t want new information, they want validating information.
The
problem is that when you are an expert you actually need to pay more
attention, not less. Why? Because when you are already familiar with 98
percent of the information on a topic, you need to listen very carefully
to pick up on the remaining 2 percent.
As adults our prior knowledge blocks us from seeing things anew. To quote zen master Shunryo Suzuki, “In the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities, but in the expert’s there are few.”
How to Rediscover Your Beginner’s Mind
Here are a few practical ways to rediscover your beginner’s mind and embrace the concept of shoshin.
Let go of the need to add value. Many
people, especially high achievers, have an overwhelming need to provide
value to the people around them. On the surface, this sounds like a
great thing. But in practice, it can handicap your success because you
never have a conversation where you are quiet and listen. If you’re
constantly adding value (“You should try this…” or “Let me tell you
something that worked well for me…”) then you kill the ownership that
other people feel about their ideas. At the same time, it’s impossible
for you to listen to someone else when you’re talking. So, step one is
to let go of the need to always contribute. Step back every now and then
and just observe and listen. For more on this, read Marshall
Goldsmith’s excellent book What Got You Here Won’t Get You There.
Let go of the need to win every argument. A few years ago, I read a smart post by Ben Casnocha about becoming less competitive as time goes on. In Ben’s words, “Others don’t need to lose for me to win.” This
is a philosophy that fits well with the idea of shoshin. If you’re
having a conversation and someone makes a statement that you disagree
with, try releasing the urge to correct them. They don’t need to lose
the argument for you to win. Letting go of the need to prove a point
opens up the possibility for you to learn something new. Approach it
from a place of curiosity (Curiosity is a superpower): Isn’t that
interesting. They look at this in a totally different way. Even if you
are right and they are wrong, it doesn’t matter. You can walk away
satisfied even if you don’t have the last word in every conversation.
Tell me more about that.
I have a tendency to talk a lot--just ask my wife 😅(see “Providing Too
Much Value” above). Every now and then, I’ll challenge myself to stay
quiet and pour all of my energy into listening to someone else. My
favorite strategy is to ask someone to, “Tell me more about that.” It
doesn’t matter what the topic is, I’m simply trying to figure out how
things work and open my mind to hearing about the world through someone
else’s perspective.
Assume that, like me, you are an idiot.
In his fantastic book, Fooled by Randomness, Nassim Taleb writes, “I
try to remind my group each week that we are all idiots and know
nothing, but we have the good fortune of knowing it.” The flaws
discussed in this article are simply a product of being human. We all
have to learn information from someone and somewhere, so we all have a
mentor or a system that guides our thoughts. The key is to realize this
influence.
In a sense we are all idiots, but if you have the
privilege of knowing that, then you can start to let go of your
preconceptions and approach life with a beginner’s mind. A mind that
will help us challenge the status quo to create personal, team and
organizational breakthroughs.
"A breakthrough is often a break with." --Stephen Covey
Check out a post about another powerful Japanese concept based on an American idea: Kaizen: Gaining the Full Benefits of Continuous Improvement
To your greater success and fulfillment,
Peter Mclees, Leadership Coach, Trainer and Performance Consultant
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